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Ok I tried following this guide getting nowhere.
On my Mac I press the cmd+k type in the vncserver. all it say is "Connecting..."
on my windows I use the tightvnc client it opens the login screen for octane computer I see the icons start loading and then it disconnects immediately.

I don't get any log file in /.vnc/computername:1 (I set it to 1 instead of 4 trying different things.)
if I start normal vnc server everything works but I don't get desktop because no clue what to enter in the startup script.

from /usr/adm/SYSLOG. (changed it over to :0 removing the default one (Because I don't have monitor for the computer anyway))

Oct 22 21:39:25 3B:octane xdm[1127]: Server for display :0 terminated unexpectedly: 1
Oct 22 21:45:03 3B:octane xdm[1127]: Server for display :0 terminated unexpectedly: 1